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If you are estranged from your adult child, if your child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. When your child cuts you out of her life it provokes deep feelings of shame, guilt, bewilderment, and hurt, all of which can easily turn to anger. Sometimes, of course, there are circumstances in which cutting off from a parent is the only viable option for an adult child age 18 and older , for instance, in the case of past or present physical, emotional or sexual abuse from a parent.

And when you are in the dark, the easiest thing to blame is yourself—to believe that you failed as a parent. Many adult children struggle with their parents, or with money issues, etc.

Why do some cut off while others go through similar struggles and stay connected? We humans manage stress in pretty predictable ways. We have a fight or flight response just like other species. And some people are more prone to distancing flight when emotional intensity gets high. Joe was living at home after college, and his parents felt he was aimless.

They would nag, yell, and question him daily as to his game plan. He would be vague or get nasty, which caused his parents to get on his back even more.

Eventually, Joe moved out. When a person distances from others, they feel a sense of relief because the distance seemingly brings the conflict to an end. Of course, nothing is actually resolved; instead, more stress is generated. On the outside, it looks as though Joe and his parents are disconnected. But on the inside, they are actually thinking about each other all the time and remain overly focused on one another.

They are, in fact, still extremely involved with one another: Neither is free from the original problem; nor are they free from each other. Distancing, at its extreme, turns to cutting off. It can occur after long periods of conflict or as a sudden reaction to a difficult encounter. Whatever the issue, the person doing the cutting off has difficulty addressing and resolving the problem directly and maturely. Instead, like Joe, they stop communicating.

Continuing the relationship seems unmanageable to them. When a parent and child are too emotionally bound up with each other, they are more susceptible to cutting off when anxiety is high.

Joe and his parents, for instance, were overly involved and entangled with each other. He was not taking responsibility for himself, nor were his parents taking responsibility for themselves. Instead they nagged, begged and hoped he would change. He dug his heels in deeper, did less when pushed, and refused to address his part of the problem.

They were living in reaction to one another, rather than each taking responsibility for their part of the family conflict. Should you contact your child or not? How long should you try? What should you say? Being cut off by your child, with no ability to understand, communicate and resolve things, is difficult enough.

In addition to reaching out to friends and family, consider joining a support group. If you are not able to function at your best, get some professional help. You are not the one cutting ties; your child is. Continue to reach out to him, letting him know that you love him and that you want to mend whatever has broken. Send birthday and holiday messages as well as occasional brief notes or emails.

Simply say that you are thinking about him and hope to have the opportunity to reconnect. Send your warmth, love and compassion—as you get on with your life. And in their attempt to be supportive, friends and family may fuel your feelings of betrayal, inadvertently increasing your anger.

Anger is natural, but not helpful. Step back and try to understand what led to this estrangement. What patterns were operating in your family dance?

If you can look at your family from a more factual vantage point, it may feel less personal. No one is to blame.

Now if the door opens, you will be in a much better position to reconcile. If the door opens with your child, listen with an open heart. Listen to her perceptions of what wrongs took place. Even if you disagree with her, look for the grains of truth. Be willing to look at yourself. So prepare yourself to handle this. Your adult child may need to hold on to blame as a way to manage her own anxiety.

Just letting her know that you hear her will go a long way. Keep in mind that she, too, had to be in tremendous pain to reach the point of shutting you out. Try to empathize with her pain rather than get caught up in the hurt and anger. If you do begin communicating again, you will be in a position to learn from the mistakes of the past and work toward an improved relationship.

Put your efforts into changing yourself, not your child. Let go of your resentments regarding the estrangement. Understand his need to flee—and forgive him. Get to know the adult child you have, not the child you think he should have been. Allow him to get to know you.

If your child still has made no contact, grieve the loss and know there is still hope. Try to manage your anxiety, and do the right thing by staying in touch with him in a non-intrusive way: Rather than blame yourself or your child for this pain, use your energy to learn about yourself, your own family history and patterns in your other relationships. Look for other patterns of cutting off in your family tree. Remember that shutting a person out is a response to anxiety and a family that is overly entangled with one another.

The love and caring is there; the ability to solve differences is not. You did not make your child to turn away. That was her decision. It may have been a poor one, but it was the best she could do at the time. Try to get your focus off of her at least 50 percent of the day, which will make a difference. Your pain is real. Put the focus on what you have control of: You must log in to leave a comment.

Don't have an account? Create one for free! Responses to questions posted on EmpoweringParents. We cannot diagnose disorders or offer recommendations on which treatment plan is best for your family. Please seek the support of local resources as needed. If you need immediate assistance, or if you and your family are in crisis, please contact a qualified mental health provider in your area, or contact your statewide crisis hotline.

We value your opinions and encourage you to add your comments to this discussion. We ask that you refrain from discussing topics of a political or religious nature. Unfortunately, it's not possible for us to respond to every question posted on our website. For more than 25 years, Debbie has offered compassionate and effective therapy and coaching, helping individuals, couples and parents to heal themselves and their relationships.

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Listen to her perceptions of what wrongs took place. Even if you disagree with her, look for the grains of truth. Be willing to look at yourself. So prepare yourself to handle this. Your adult child may need to hold on to blame as a way to manage her own anxiety. Just letting her know that you hear her will go a long way. Keep in mind that she, too, had to be in tremendous pain to reach the point of shutting you out. Try to empathize with her pain rather than get caught up in the hurt and anger.

If you do begin communicating again, you will be in a position to learn from the mistakes of the past and work toward an improved relationship. Put your efforts into changing yourself, not your child. Let go of your resentments regarding the estrangement. Understand his need to flee—and forgive him. Get to know the adult child you have, not the child you think he should have been.

Allow him to get to know you. If your child still has made no contact, grieve the loss and know there is still hope. Try to manage your anxiety, and do the right thing by staying in touch with him in a non-intrusive way: Rather than blame yourself or your child for this pain, use your energy to learn about yourself, your own family history and patterns in your other relationships.

Look for other patterns of cutting off in your family tree. Remember that shutting a person out is a response to anxiety and a family that is overly entangled with one another. The love and caring is there; the ability to solve differences is not. You did not make your child to turn away.

That was her decision. It may have been a poor one, but it was the best she could do at the time. Try to get your focus off of her at least 50 percent of the day, which will make a difference. Your pain is real. Put the focus on what you have control of: You must log in to leave a comment. Don't have an account? Create one for free! Responses to questions posted on EmpoweringParents. We cannot diagnose disorders or offer recommendations on which treatment plan is best for your family.

Please seek the support of local resources as needed. If you need immediate assistance, or if you and your family are in crisis, please contact a qualified mental health provider in your area, or contact your statewide crisis hotline. We value your opinions and encourage you to add your comments to this discussion.

We ask that you refrain from discussing topics of a political or religious nature. Unfortunately, it's not possible for us to respond to every question posted on our website.

For more than 25 years, Debbie has offered compassionate and effective therapy and coaching, helping individuals, couples and parents to heal themselves and their relationships. Does your child exhibit angry outbursts , such as tantrums, lashing out, punching walls, and throwing things? Would you like to learn about how to use consequences more effectively? Do you struggle with disrespect or verbal abuse from your child? Has your child been diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder ODD?

Or does your child exhibit a consistent and severe pattern of anger, irritability, arguing, defiance, and vindictiveness toward you or other authority figures? We're just about finished! Estranged from Your Adult Child? Show Comments You must log in to leave a comment. About Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC For more than 25 years, Debbie has offered compassionate and effective therapy and coaching, helping individuals, couples and parents to heal themselves and their relationships.

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